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Unsolicited Advice

Why wait for readers to ask questions before suggesting solutions? An advice column that cuts out the middleman.

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How to remember a thought you have while someone is talking so you can bring it up afterwards (rather than derailing them)

How to remember a thought you have while someone is talking so you can bring it up afterwards (rather than derailing them)

Conversational pins! I use this constantly, and I take it so much for granted that I almost never tell people about it, even though it is one of the most practical things I use.

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"What to do when you and your domestic partner have wholly different eating habits?"

"What to do when you and your domestic partner have wholly different eating habits?"

It seems to me this question is not really about food. Because no one writes in for advice on simple scheduling issues.

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Thoughts don't create actions. Thoughts create emotions, emotions create actions.

Thoughts don't create actions. Thoughts create emotions, emotions create actions.

You think that if you don't be a bit harsh with yourself when you genuinely mess up then you'll let yourself get away with it in future, etc, etc.

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Mental health tips from babies

Mental health tips from babies

You have to remember that you're probably as strongly affected by tiredness as the kid throwing an absolute tantrum.

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Why do women cry more than men?

Why do women cry more than men?

"According to research, women cry 30 to 64 times a year, whereas men cry just 6 to 17 times per year."

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Be less easy-going about sickness (originally written 2017)

Be less easy-going about sickness (originally written 2017)

Getting a cold sucks SO MUCH and most people don’t do the slightest thing to prevent spreading it.

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A few skincare tips / why you should avoid Lush

A few skincare tips / why you should avoid Lush

All citrus oils - lemon, grapefruit, tangerine, bergamot, yuzu - are irritants, and worse, they are UV-sensitising so if you use them during the day, you will increase the amount of damage sun does to you.

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Productivity tip: Interstitial journalling

Productivity tip: Interstitial journalling

Interstitial journalling is a minute or two of journalling that you do in between tasks to help you clear the old task out of your head and re-focus on the new task.

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How to handle narcissists

How to handle narcissists

Begin by reinforcing the value of this person, and your relationship with them. (This is probably a lie: we're talking about surviving in a bad situation.)

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Being laid-back and not taking things personally: pros and cons

Being laid-back and not taking things personally: pros and cons

It can feel like they don't care, which creates disconnection and is a barrier to intimacy. "How can you be so relaxed about this - doesn't this matter to you?"