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Unsolicited Advice

Why wait for readers to ask questions before suggesting solutions? An advice column that cuts out the middleman.

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Mobility Routine Experiment

Mobility Routine Experiment

Trying 19 of the most recommended mobility routines on Reddit

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Task prioritisation is fake

Task prioritisation is fake

Do or do not. There is no "prioritise"

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'Apartners' - what it's like to live apart from your husband or wife

On living apart from your spouse

It’s really nice knowing that, every time you see your partner, it’s because they made the choice to be with you, not just because they happened to be in the same physical location by chance anyway.

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cleaning decluttering overwhelmed help

How to clean a cluttered space when you’re overwhelmed

No matter how cluttered your space is, remember it only has 5 things in it: trash, dishes, clothing, things that have a spot, things that don’t have a spot. Don’t look at the whole morass.

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Photo of Author Dave Farland. Not everything is fixable, and that's better than the alternative.

It's okay that not everything is fixable

There's a fallacy that if we can define the solution space, a solution must exist that fits there. But the fundamental problem was, "Dave is dead."

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Chronos is clock time, whereas kairos is living time.

Chronos vs Kairos: Understanding how the Ancient Greeks viewed time will make your life richer

“Chronos” is measured and counted, while “kairos” is lived and experienced

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Is it cowardly to break up with someone via text? (No)

Is it cowardly to break up with someone via text? (No)

A text break-up is a sign that one person did not trust the other (good reason to break up, hey). Why would you automatically assume that mistrust was irrational?

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Enjoying haiku

How to enjoy haiku

One of the best things I’ve learned recently is how to enjoy haiku. Now I pass on this knowledge to you.

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frozen because i have a responsibility at any point in the future

The “I can’t start any tasks because I have an appointment in 5 hours” problem

If I have basically anything scheduled in a day, my brain goes into “waiting mode”. Like, that appointment is the next thing on the list, can’t do things out of order, so can’t do anything.

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On favour-sharking (emotional loan-sharking)

On favour-sharking (emotional loan-sharking)

Favour-sharking is when someone does a favour for you totally unasked for and possibly unwanted, in order to make you feel obligated to them.