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Unsolicited Advice

Why wait for readers to ask questions before suggesting solutions? An advice column that cuts out the middleman.

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It's okay to do something in a sub-optimal way

It's okay to do something in a sub-optimal way

More importantly: it's okay for someone else to do something in a sub-optimal way.

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Fidgeting is good for you

Fidgeting is good for you

It annoys other people but they should learn to put up with it because It counteracts some of the negative effects of sitting and reduces stress.

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Accepting invitations that are weeks or months in advance

Accepting invitations that are weeks or months in advance

When someone invites you to something in the distant future, ask: Would I say Yes to it if it was this weekend? That's the first method.

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How to approach a potential mentor (if you want a mentor)

How to approach a potential mentor (if you want a mentor)

Step 1, how you've done the obvious things that would be on the front page of google.

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Overreacting vs under-reacting vs being proactive

Overreacting vs under-reacting vs being proactive

Without fully and completely understanding the situation, how can you know if someone is overreacting or under-reacting or just reacting?

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Words don’t have meanings, they have uses

Words don’t have meanings, they have uses

Don't ask "what does it mean?" but "what can you use it for?" This is fundamentally a much more true and useful way to think about words and definitions.

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Don’t talk to the cops even if you’ve done nothing wrong: A lawyer explains every reason why it’s a terrible idea

Don’t talk to the cops even if you’ve done nothing wrong: A lawyer explains every reason why it’s a terrible idea

You don’t know if you’re in trouble. You don't even know if you're lying or not. You can't even talk properly.

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A lazy way to broaden your general knowledge

A lazy way to broaden your general knowledge

Every time you look up a fact, read the whole Wikipedia page. Do that for a year and you’ll end up with a vast shoreline of knowledge.

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Expect a dopamine crash after an accomplishment

Expect a dopamine crash after an accomplishment

After high energy social engagement, especially one where youre performing, youll usually get a mood drop when coming "off stage" because of dropping adrenaline & dopamine levels.

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Concept: Vulnerability hoarding

Concept: Vulnerability hoarding

Using vulnerability, frailty, sensitivity, etc. to shut down or derail the conversation, or to make the person who’s upset with you start apologising and comforting you instead.