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EQ & Interpersonal

Ways to be kinder, have better relationships, and annoy people less (everyone is a bit annoying, it's okay)

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Being laid-back and not taking things personally: pros and cons

Being laid-back and not taking things personally: pros and cons

It can feel like they don't care, which creates disconnection and is a barrier to intimacy. "How can you be so relaxed about this - doesn't this matter to you?"

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Forgive yourself for responding imperfectly to injustice and mistreatment

Forgive yourself for responding imperfectly to injustice and mistreatment

We are all getting better at forgiving ourselves for being victims, I think, I hope, but it's harder when we actually did handle a situation poorly, or at least suboptimally.

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Three things that help with impostor syndrome

Three things that help with impostor syndrome

1. Understand that literally everyone, however famous and lauded, feels this way. Here's an amazing (brief!) story of Neil Gaiman's experience with impostor syndrome.

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Deal with passive-aggression by wilfully assuming the best intentions

Deal with passive-aggression by wilfully assuming the best intentions

I really don't like it when people don't tell me if I've hurt their feelings, but I can't bring myself to just cheerfully assume they're not hurt if they won't say.

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How to be considerate: three factors

How to be considerate: three factors

The obvious element is nice-ness - wanting to make someone's day a bit easier and being willing to do it. But there are two other elements that don't get talked about much.

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The secret to successful spinsterhood / living alone

The secret to successful spinsterhood / living alone

People usually put more effort into day-to-day life stuff when they do it with a partner. Successful spinsterhood is when you put that effort in for yourself.

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The perfect $0 gift for the host of a party/event

The perfect $0 gift for the host of a party/event

I know it's perfect because I received it, loved it, and now I'm going to plagiarise it.

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I hate good listeners

I hate good listeners

When someone does that intense, focused listening thing at you, suddenly you feel like you better say something worth the amount of attention they’re devoting to it.

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How to be arrogant without annoying people too much

How to be arrogant without annoying people too much

There’s almost no limit to how highly you can think of yourself, if you think of other people just as highly.

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is it normal for couples not to fight?

"Is there something wrong with couples who don't fight? Does it mean my partner and I lack passion?"

I would agree that normal couples fight but please remember that about 90% of couples should probably break up.