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Unsolicited Advice

Why wait for readers to ask questions before suggesting solutions? An advice column that cuts out the middleman.

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Talk to people with different life experiences, not just different politics

Getting out of your filter bubble doesn't mean 'talk to people who voted for the other guy'. There are a lot of other kinds of diversity.

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The Deaf experience shows how impoverished hearing people's communication can be

The Deaf experience shows how impoverished hearing people's communication can be

“It’s rude to point,” my friend told me from across the elementary-school cafeteria table. I grasped her words as I read them off her lips. She stared at my index finger, which I held raised in midair, gesturing toward a mutual classmate. “My mom said so.” I was 6

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what do you really want, when you think you what a lamborghini? or an Alfa Romeo or whatever that is

The problem isn’t that we have desires, but that our desires are too small

This week I came across the exact same concept expressed by a Buddhist and a Christian thinker, which was startling enough to seem worth exploring.

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backchannel is how you show people you're listening in conversations

“Backchannel”: A crucial element of how conversations flow and people bond

I’m going to tell you about an incredibly useful linguistic concept — one of those things where you’re like “oh there’s a word for that, that’s so useful! Now I have a way talk about it.”

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a nervous person is trying something new and worried they'll look stupid

The best way to get a nervous person to try something new

It’s not, “tell them it’s easy and they’ll pick it up no problem”

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No FOMO: If you’d bought bitcoin 10 years ago, you wouldn't be rich today

No FOMO: If you’d bought bitcoin 10 years ago, you wouldn't be rich today

If you’d put $100 into bitcoin back in the day, you’d have sold it when it reached $1000. Maybe $10,000. And holding on to $100,000 in the hopes it’d turn into a million? Come on.

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perfectionists don't feel perfect, they feel like they're struggling just to keep up

Perfectionists don’t think they’re perfectionists, they think they’re good-enoughists

Perfectionists don't feel like they need things perfect. They're just trying to do the bare minimum, and it’s killing them — because their conception of “the minimum” is badly skewed.

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best way to reheat pizza: the easiest good method and the still pretty easy great method

The best way to reheat pizza

The easiest method that still turns out good, and the only slightly more complicated method that turns out great.

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You’re allowed to do the fun organisation tasks even if you haven’t done the boring ones

People get excited about fun organisation tasks — making a pegboard or putting all your spices in mason jars, or something pretty and fun — but feel like they can't do them when the floor hasn’t been vacuumed.

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Why videogame music is perfect focus music

Why videogame music is perfect focus music

Videogame music is specifically designed to get you into a rhythmic flow. It’s intended to be a background to a focused task.